Twenty Something Twenty Everything

Ok, I don’t know about you, but I often find myself questioning every aspect of my life – relationships, am I working in the right place?, should I be living where I am?, or move back to be by family?, why am I not more successful?, should I be taking advantage of this time in my life to travel?  Life in your twenties is a lot more difficult than I thought it would be – I thought I would be engaged, planning a wedding, looking for a house, in my dream job, saving up money to have kids and for a honeymoon.  Boy was I wrong.  I have a lot of friends in the same boat – a lot of friends struggling with the pressures of being a twenty something woman in the twenty-first century.  It is a lot different from our grandparents and even parents – we are expected to be independent, but also in a relationship, working a successful and profitable job, all while remaining close to our friends and family.  It is a lot. 

I was browsing around Barnes and Noble one day and came across the book Twenty Something Twenty Everything.  Just reading the synopsis, I knew I had to buy this book and read it –  “Is your life not working out like you expected? Do you sense that nothing is dreadfully wrong, but nothing feels quite right either? Done everything you were “supposed to do” but still do not feel fulfilled?  This book is for you. Faced with a career she worked hard to achieve but didn’t like and the disintegration of her relationship; author Christine Hassler talked to other women and discovered a pattern. Many women in their twenties (and thirties) feel unsettled and struggle to reassess their positions on what Christine calls the “Twenties Triangle:” Who am I? What do I want? How do I get it? ”

The book walks you through every aspect of your life and gives you exercises that assist in your understanding and relating the chapters directly to your life.  I have to be honest, I didn’t do every exercise, but definitely can appreciate their purpose and chose to participate in those I felt would be beneficial.  I don’t recommend many books, but I can honestly say this was extremely helpful – if for nothing else, to realize I am not the only person that feels this way.

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Coffee Time Cafe

A friend of mine owns an adorable coffee shop in Eagan called Coffee Time Cafe.  It is at the intersection of 35E and Lone Oak Road.  They have daily sandwich and soup specials at a very reasonable price – get a half sandwich a cup of soup for only $5.95!!  They also, of course, have a complete coffee menu with specialty drinks and your tradition organic & fair trade coffee.  Another fun benefit – they offer boxed lunches for meetings or groups.  Definitely check it out on the web at http://coffeetimecafes.com/wordpress/.  It is always fun to find a locally owned coffee shop with delicious treats. 

Country Bar

As most of you know, I LOVE country music.  Personally, I am not a huge fan of Toby Keith, but when his new bar opened in St. Louis Park, I had to go check it out.  I was there on a Saturday night, and we did have to wait a bit to get in – like 5 minutes, but fortunately the line is in a covered alley so the torrential rain did not ruin my hair.  Please note ladies : I do believe I could have gotten in faster if I had worn a shorter skirt and a tighter top, but that just isn’t my style – the bouncer is very biased.  Anyway, once you get inside it is pure energy!  There is a live band every weekend on Friday and Saturday, and usually not a cover unless it is a well-known star (last weekend was 2/3 of Trick Pony).  The beer is served out of a mason jar (yes, like the song), the drinks were affordable ($3.50 for a bottled beer and $3.50 for a mixed drink), the band was great, there are plenty of bathroom stalls so no line, the bartenders were quick, and the crowd was diverse.  I danced the night away to my favorite songs, but don’t expect to talk when  you are dancing – it is super loud.  The only downfall was the creepy guy and the bachelorette parties.  If you are into country or just looking for a different scene, definitely check this out! 

Crazy Cool Dress

Butter by Nadia has created a dress that can be wrapped in numerous ways to create completely different dresses.  You have the option of picking your fabric type, color and design, then you download videos on how to wrap the dress and create completely different looks.  The price tag is a little steep at $250.00, but the ability to change the look from casual to formal is priceless!  Plus, it makes an amazing bridemaids dress – truly a dress you can wear again!

Popular Brands, But Unexpected Style

My cousin forwarded me these great websites.  They are all derived from a popular main-stream brand, but are hip and trendy styles.  I’m loving the relaxed, casual comfortable look right now, and these are perfect options!  Plus, you already know they are reputable brands!!  Check out some of my favorites below, and definitely explore these great sites. 

Madewell (j.crew)

Land’s End Canvas

LL Bean Signature

Ultimate Break-up Soundtrack

I think every girl does it – creates a soundtrack after a break-up that will get her through the hard times, the sad times, the angry times.  Well, I thought I would share my personal playlist that has helped me through the past 6 months.  Yes, I said 6 months.  Some take longer than others I guess.  I started this list right away in January, and have gradually added more as I move further in the process.  Take a listen to some of the highlights.

“Blindfold” by Tristan Prettyman – http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=n5bRE0dXWqw

“Pray For You” by Jaron and The Long Road to Love – http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=atBg9zLI2bA

“Lover, Lover” by Jerrod Niemann – http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=-q0LE3gtUn8

“I Look So Good” by Jessie James – http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=A-35GWbTjus

“Madly” by Tristan Prettyman – http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=QQE24WFdVXc

“Ain’t Killed Me Yet” by Eric Church – http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=GBTZ004PxQ8

“The Way I Am” – Ingrid Michaelson – http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=jJOzdLwvTHA

“Haven’t Met You Yet” by Michael Buble – http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=1AJmKkU5POA

 

Favorite Summer Cocktail

Last summer I was a little obsessed with this sangria-like cocktail.  I developed it kind of by accident, but I have to say – it has become a fan favorite.  All you do it put half Sprite (or other lemon-lime soda), half red wine (I prefer Trader Joe’s Two Buck Chuck in Merlot or Cabernet), and juice from a cut up lime.  It is super simple, and perfect for those hot summer days and nights. 

Spectacular Side Table

Last summer I was in northern Wisconsin and went to a spectacular garden center.  They had hundreds of planting pots on sale for super cheap, so I stocked up on various colors from turquoise to cobalt to lime green.  Now, however, I live in an apartment with no patio, so the pots are scattered throughout my home.  I saw this idea in Real Simple, and absolutely love it!  It is so affordable and such a great solution – even if you use your pots during the summer and decide to transition them inside for the winter.  All you need is a piece of glass.

Interesting Article

My boss forwarded me a e-newsletter with information on how to work with young adults from Generation Y.  Take a look at the three steps on “how to better interact” and let me know what you think!

1.    They are immediate. This often comes off as impatience, but Gen Ys are used to things moving at a fast pace. Channel this energy into projects that are meaningful to them and need a flurry of activity to get accomplished.

2.    They are informal. Gen Ys tend to be comfortable interacting with anyone at any level of the organization. Encourage this outreach but ask that they keep you updated about whom they’re talking to and on what topics.

3.    They learn with others. To figure out a new task, Gen Ys often like to talk it through, sometimes with people from another unit or a different company. When the task is sensitive, set the rules that this is out-of-bounds. For other topics, recognize that this collaborative instinct is a good one and don’t discourage it even if it’s not your style.

Spark People

It is always fun to find a new heath related website.   At this point in my life I have the workout thing down, but the food things is another issue.  I definitely underestimate what I eat in a day. Spark People has been my saving grace.  Check out www.sparkpeople.com, sign up for free and start your account. You can track your workouts and your daily food intake.  It was a great reality check for me.  I actually started using the site a few years ago, but started up again this summer.  Try it out, and if you have an iPhone, you can download the app and input information throughout and keep better track fo the calories.